Learning Experiences Come In All Shapes and Sizes.

I have learned many fun and interesting things on FetLife this week, including the fact that Dom/mes who care about their subs’ wants and needs actually exist. This was not my experience, so it was a refreshing outlook to explore. Outside of FetLife I learned that  I, like my main character, Madeline, am not quite human till after the coffee is in my hands, or at least somewhere on my person.


However, the most important thing I learned this week was not on FetLife. I had my first real beta read. I don’t mean where my friend reads my work and gives me strokes about how awesome I am. I mean the kind where the reader, in this case my dear friend and writing guru, S. A, tells me what’s good and what sucks about my story.

LOL. I knew I wasn’t perfect, so don’t think that my bubble was burst by hearing that every word wasn’t golden. I was aware it wasn’t quite up to the quality of Switch It ON, which was on fire, if I do say so myself. Humility doesn’t become me. I was pretty sure it was awesome before I let anyone see it. On the new one, though, I knew I had gone off the rails somewhere, I just wasn’t quite sure where.

Switch It UP has been the very devil to write. Admittedly, it is a more ambitious story, because I wanted to tell you, my readers, about my beloved Jase, star of my dreams and my personal “most beautiful thing”. (Thank you, Ian Astbury!) Since these stories are written in the first person and not from his point of view, how was I going to do that? Madeline, my main character, tells you in breathless detail what she thinks of him, but how to let him tell you about himself? I think I have come up with a way to do just that, and I think if you liked Switch It ON, you’ll really enjoy it. Easy, though, it has not been.

Neither was hearing the truth about my creation. I hated to hear that part of one scene had devolved into middle school behavior, although this was perfectly obvious when pointed out. More difficult, though,was to hear was that I had not portrayed my main character in the light I envisioned, and that she was coming off as a good bit crazier than initially intended. Madeline is the character with whom I identify most strongly, thanks in part to writing in her voice. Perhaps I needed my medication adjusted, and not her.

Well, perhaps, but my point in telling you all of this is to show how I pulled up my big girl panties and took the information. I took it calmly and well, I think. Because it was true. Pretty much every word. Are my solutions going to be exactly what she suggested? Nope. Is this going to be a better damn book because of it? You betcha.

The above photo was not credited or watermarked where I found it. If is yours, please let me credit you!


3 thoughts on “Learning Experiences Come In All Shapes and Sizes.

  1. I’m stumbled across your blog and I find it very interesting—this entry in particular! a) I’m glad you find evidence of dom/mes who care about their subs. That’s so important, and I understand not seeing much evidence of it. b) Your series of stories sounds intriguing to me, especially the way you describe Jase. I plan to look into them further! c) I can empathize with your experience of being beta’d. It sounds like you took it phenomenally well, and learned so much from it. That’s the attitude I aspire to as well.

    I also love your sense of humour that comes through in your posts—and your blog style/layout, as silly as that may be. 😛 Hey, I just like a good font.

    • Thank you so much! There was supposed to be a new one, but working on Switch It UP has kind of taken precedence. I’d be thrilled if you enjoyed Switch It ON, so please let me know. I was advised against much humor in my Erotic Romance but I can’t seem to leave out the sarcasm. It’s an intrinsic part of me and my MC. My beta reader is also my writing guru, and a dear friend. Everything she said was spot on, and as I get further into the book, has shaped it in a much more pleasing form.

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