The next of the Switch Series is called Switch It UP. That was chosen for a very specific reason, because it’s all about change, and specifically Madeline allowing other people into what had been a very private space for her. Not just for sex, mind you, but for love and family and all that jazz, things she didn’t think she needed. So, I’ve been reading a bit about polyamory.
I’ve been involved in relationships that might fall under this category, but what does it really mean? According to Wikipedia: Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning “many” or “several”, and Latin amor, “love”) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is distinct from swinging (which emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational) and may or may not include polysexuality (attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes).
More love in life is a beautiful idea. I’ve read much beautiful writing indicating that polyamory can be exactly that. But wait, aren’t people naturally drawn to that one special person who’ll be their soul-mate forever? When I stop laughing, let me give you my opinion. Keep in mind it comes from a person who isn’t particularly good at relationships of any kind more intimate than friendships.
Some people actually are, I believe, suited for just one person forever. The sad part is that not everyone is, and Western Society seems to feel that monogamy is THE ONLY WAY. As a Pansexual and a Switch, that seems a little restrictive to me, and not in that fun, cuff-me-to-the bedpost kind of way.
What about jealousy? Complete honesty, transparency, and a sense of fairness come to the rescue here. From my extensive research, I believe this is possible. From my field study, let me just say that I haven’t seen that much of it.